It's less about a conscious decision to be nice, and more about keeping the flow / not having the muscle memory to give unpleasant feedback. I've been told to not be nice a lot but that doesn't change the fact that it's hard to point out shortcomings of someone. The best way to get better is by practice. Find a peer that you trust and literally roleplay / mock feedback session. Do it once a week and you'll have no problem doing the real thing
It's less about a conscious decision to be nice, and more about keeping the flow / not having the muscle memory to give unpleasant feedback. I've been told to not be nice a lot but that doesn't change the fact that it's hard to point out shortcomings of someone. The best way to get better is by practice. Find a peer that you trust and literally roleplay / mock feedback session. Do it once a week and you'll have no problem doing the real thing
Love this suggestion that this general tendency is a muscle to actively practice. Thank you for writing and sharing this Mikhail -- great reminder.